(I've revised this to try to be more concilliatory and show my reasoning from Scripture more. Thanks for comments that pointed out that my post had not been very humble. I'm attempting to be provocative (I genuinely think this is an important topic where we may be putting unecessary burdens on children). I hope also to be gracious.)
The below is a guest post from Brian Croft. Brian is the senior pastor of Auburndale Baptist Church in Louisville, Kentucky. Brian writes regularly on his own blog http://practicalshepherding.com/. He is married to Cara and has four children.
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How much should pastors/elders share with their wives?
Bruce Ware recently presented a compelling message to the men of Clifton Baptist Church on being a faithful husband and father. You can listen to the talk and view the handout (text pasted below) here.
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