Gary Lamb was a church planter, blogger, and the pastor of a huge church in Georgia. He had an affair and was divorced from his wife.
Now he's married again and planting another church (which the Bible says is kind of uncool, but that's not my purpose here).
Since his story has broken, Lamb has been receiving emails from many men in ministry who are cheating on their wives, and so he is uniquely positioned to speak to the question of why pastors have affairs. Even if you don't agree with him on a lot of things, there's a lot to be gained from his insights on this matter (as someone once said, wisdom isn't learning from your mistakes, it's learning from the mistakes of others). His four observations:
- Most pastors struggle with some sort of insecurity.
- Most pastors have no accountability.
- Most pastors live their lives serving everyone except their wife.
- The church has made pastors into rock stars rather than regular men called by God.
Maybe one of those hits home for you. If so, I pray you see the danger and make necessary changes. Better men than you and me have fallen into this trap.
You can read the whole thing over at garylamb.org (sorry, the link-a-ma-thing isn't working).