The good news unspectacular pastor is this: “winning personality” is not found in the list of pastoral qualifications in 1 Timothy 3 or Titus 1.
Church members have the holy calling of “putting up with one another”—or, as the Bible puts it, forbearing with one another.
Members of the blood-bought church of Jesus Christ have a holy calling to put up with one another.
Love leans in and listens well. May God help us so love one another.
Pastoral patience—the capacity to invest sufficient time in the pursuit of kingdom outcomes without freaking out—is a vital virtue in the exercise of pastoral care.