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Mailbag #48: How to Discuss Books as Elders; Advice for Husband & Wife Who Can’t Agree about Church

By Jonathan Leeman | 01.13.2017

— You’ve mentioned before the value of elders reading books together. What’s the best way to go about that? — Do you have any advice for a husband and wife who can’t agree on which church to go to?

Mailbag #45: Transgender Pronouns & Marrying an Egalitarian Couple

By Jonathan Leeman | 12.16.2016

— When talking to transgender friends or family members, which pronoun should I use? — How would you handle the pre-marital counseling of an egalitarian couple?

Week #12—What Christians Should Ask of Government: To Affirm and Protect the Family

By Jonathan Leeman | 12.01.2016

The topics of marriage and family necessarily involve society in matters which the state will need to regulate.

Mailbag #42: Hypocritical Church Discipline; Pre-Marital Counseling for Two Unbelievers?

By Jonathan Leeman | 11.18.2016

—Why do churches discipline for sins like homosexuality and adultery but not other sins like gluttony or vanity or greed? —Would you do pre-marital counseling for two unbelievers? If so, what would you cover?

Mailbag #39: Turning Elder Training into a Program; Divorced, Repentant, but Not Seeking Reconciliation?

By Jonathan Leeman | 10.28.2016

—Is it wise to turn elder training into a program? —Can a divorced member of the church be repentant without seeking reconciliation with their spouse?

Delighting in Authority: How to Create a Culture of Happy Complementarians

By Whitney Woollard | 9Marks Journal: Authority: God's Good and Dangerous Gift | 09.30.2016

It’s time for the church to create space in its local assemblies for strong females who happily affirm authority while advocating for more opportunities for women to flourish according to their gifts and qualification.

The Privilege and Power of a Praying Pastor’s Wife

By Erin Wheeler | 9Marks Journal: The Church Praying | 06.21.2016

We might say we believe prayer is important, but are we praying regularly, specifically, and expectantly?

Book Review: Family Worship, by Don Whitney

Review by Grant Gaines | 04.20.2016

Christian discipleship should start in the home, and this book from Donald Whitney shows husbands, wives, dads, and moms how to do it.

Book Review: Messy Grace, by Caleb Kaltenbach

Review by Jackie Hill-Perry | 04.11.2016

Messy Grace was a deeply encouraging, inspiring, and convicting read.

How Our Church Has Found a Marriage Policy to be Useful

By Nick Gatzke | 9Marks Journal: Confessions, Covenants, and Constitutions: How to Organize Your Church | 03.09.2016

In the life of a church, we create policies to help guide us to practices that help our people. May our marriage policies do just that.

Book Review: The Juvenilization of American Christianity and From Here to Maturity, by Thomas E. Bergler

Review by Guy Prentiss Waters | 09.16.2015

Christianity—and, in particular, Christian churches—have been unduly influenced by the youth culture. Is there a cure for this problem?

Should Christians “Disown” Gay Sons and Daughters?

By Jonathan Leeman | 08.18.2015

Christian parental love denies neither the child nor God’s law. It insists on loving both child and God’s law, which may be the hardest challenge of all.

Book Review: The Pastor’s Wife, by Gloria Furman

Review by Kristie Anyabwile | 08.06.2015

It’s clear from the first pages that the main character of this book is Christ, and the pastor, his wife, their family and church are all supporting players.

Preaching to Women: Things for a Pastor to Consider

By Erin Wheeler | 9Marks Journal: Expositional Preaching | 06.18.2015

Like all Christians, women need the ammunition of the gospel for another week of battle in this hostile world.

Mailbag #6: Pastors’ Wives, Taking Oaths, Pastors & Administration Work

By Jonathan Leeman | 04.17.2015

—Can I pastor’s wife work outside the home? —Is it permissible to sign a church covenant? Didn’t Jesus forbid oath-taking? —My church wants me to focus more on administration and less on shepherding. Aren’t they misunderstanding what a pastor is?