9 Suggestions for Better Members’ Meetings

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02.24.2009

Many of us have horror stories of members’ meetings gone terribly wrong. But do they always have to end in bitterness and bickering? I don’t think so. Here are nine suggestions to help set members’ meetings on the right track.

1. Stop calling them “Business Meetings.”

First, stop calling them “business meetings,” which conjures up images of corporate leaders angling for personal gain. Instead, call them “members’” meetings, or “family” meetings, or something else that suggests that we come serving Christ’s agenda, and not our own.

2. Remember that a Members’ Meeting is for Members.

Second, remember that a members’ meeting is for members. A members’ meeting is not a public meeting, so kindly excuse any stray visitors at the start of the meeting, letting them know they are more than welcome to any of your public weekly gatherings. Visitors have no more right to participate in your church’s members’ meetings than citizens of one country have the right to vote in the elections of another.

3. Aim for Accurate Membership Roles.

Third, aim for accurate membership roles. Trying to conduct healthy members’ meetings without a healthy membership roll is like inviting the fox into the henhouse.

4. Pray!

Fourth, pray! We need the wisdom only God can grant (Jas. 1:5-6). We need to rely on the only weapons that have divine power to demolish the Devil’s strongholds (2 Cor. 10:4). So begin by praying that God’s Spirit, not the fallible ingenuity and fallen man, would guide your meeting.

5. Recite your Church Covenant together.

Fifth, recite your church covenant together. Every now and then we need to hit the “reset” button. That’s part of what a church covenant does. It draws us out of the “me”-dominated world we live in, and helps reorient us around basic biblical truths.

A church covenant is to membership what vows are to marriage: they help define how we’ll live together. Such vows and promises don’t magically solve divisions. But they may just help you more humbly work though such divisions as you remind yourselves that you’ve promised “to work and pray for the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace,” as you exercise an “affectionate care and watchfulness over each other.”

6. Do the Most Important Business First.

Sixth, do the most important business first. What might that be? Defining who the church is.

Practically, that’s who is taken into membership, and who is seen out. This helps teach that who we are is fundamentally more important than the particulars of whether, for example, we continue to have a Wednesday night dinner.

7. Occasionally Remind People what Congregationalism Is, and Isn’t.

Seventh, occasionally remind people what congregationalism is, and isn’t. Some have the mistaken notion that congregationalism is the same as American democracy, or is the byproduct of it. Neither are true.

Yes, Jesus gave the keys of the kingdom to the congregation (Mt 16.19) when it comes to matters of church membership (2 Cor. 2:6), discipline (Matt. 18:17; 1 Cor. 5:1-13), and doctrine (Gal. 1:6-9; 2 Tim. 4:3). And yes, each member is given a vote. But that doesn’t mean there is anything godly in debate for debate’s sake, or that it’s the right of every member to have their voice heard, or that the elders and deacons serve like a bicameral legislature. Elders are still called to rule (1 Tim. 5.17), and members are still called to submit and obey for their own advantage (Heb. 13.17).

Playing devil’s advocate or token contrarian is a mark of immaturity, not a badge of honor. We would do well to remind our people that when Paul exhorts Timothy to flee “youthful passions” (2 Tim. 2.22), he’s not thinking first about sexual sin, but being quarrelsome.

8. Be Quick to Inform, and Don’t Get Defensive.

Eighth, be quick to inform, and don’t get defensive. Many are taught to distrust authority, and that power corrupts. Thus, where information is lacking, skepticism and cynicism run rampant. Though this isn’t a godly instinct, it’s wise to recognize that it exists, and remember that the congregation is rarely privy to all the information you are. So get out in front, regularly informing the congregation of what you’re deliberating and thinking through.

9. Know You Will Make Mistakes.

Finally, know you will make mistakes. At end of the day, leading healthy members’ meetings is more art than science. You will make mistakes. That’s inevitable.

So apologize when necessary, and make restitution where you can. And don’t get too discouraged. For though you may feel like you’ve failed, Christ has promised that the church never will (Mt. 16.18). So learn what you can from your mistakes and continue to serve wholeheartedly, as unto the Lord, and not to men (Eph. 6.7).

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