Discipleship

The Pastor and Difficult Bioethical Decision Making

By Jeremy Meeks | 12.10.2018

Here are eight maxims pastors ought to remember as they shepherd people through difficult bioethical decisions.

Your Lord’s Day Might Be Someone Else’s Way of Escape

By Rosaria Butterfield | 11.14.2018

Have you ever thought that you, your house, and your time are not your own but rather God’s ordained way of escape for someone?

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How to Counsel Couples Through Past Sexual Sin

By Scott Croft | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Practically, let’s talk about when and how pastors can guide dating or engaged couples through difficult conversations about past sexual sin.

How to Make Your Church a Safe Space for Confession

By PJ Tibayan | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Local churches ought to be the “safest space” for Christians to confess sins in general and sins tied to pornography in particular.

Are There Good and Bad Kinds of Accountability?

By Jaime Owens | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

We need to foster better, more vertical accountability in our churches. How do we do that?

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How Do Church Members Fight Porn Addiction Together?

By Deepak Reju | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

What would it mean to fight pornography together? What would it look like to cultivate a culture where leaders and members help one another?

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When Your Pastor-Husband Looks at Porn

By Carrie Kell | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

The sting of pornography has struck many marriages. The way forward can feel confusing and demoralizing. But there’s hope.

Helping Women Who Struggle with Pornography

By Stephanie Laferriere | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

“Men, what do you view on your screens when no one is watching?” This question will bury some women in shame.

Book(s) Review: Hide or Seek, by John Freeman; Sexual Sanity For Men, by David White

Review by Raymond Johnson | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Sexual wholeness is vital to healing, and these resources will help pastors better structure small groups in ways that facilitate a more open and safe place for people to come and share their experiences and struggles.

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What to Say When a Church Member Asks for Help

By Clint Darst | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

When a church member first confesses pornography consumption, they’re usually relieved to admit their battle and get help in their fight.

The Sins Behind the Sin of Pornography

By John Henderson | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Pornography flourishes under the right conditions—within a broader ecosystem of sins, struggles, and situations. It never operates in isolation.

Book Review: Wired for Intimacy, by William Struthers

Review by Deepak Reju | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Those who want to understand the biology that contributes to porn addiction will be well served by Struthers’ book.

Book Review: The Game Plan, Joe Dallas

Review by Nate Keeler | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

Overall, I would strongly recommend The Game Plan as a tool for discipling men through habitual sexual sin, especially pornography.

Book Review: A Better Story: God, Sex and Human Flourishing, by Glynn Harrison

Review by Dave Gobbett | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

A Better Story is a thoughtful, faithful and persuasive proposal for how to respond—or at least begin to respond—to the sexual revolution.

Cultivating a Culture of Transparency in Your Church

By James Choi | 9Marks Journal: The Pastor and Pornography | 10.30.2018

We should pray that our members would understand the need to make our relationships transparent—to share embarrassing things about ourselves, to speak honestly, and to ask one another careful, loving questions